“Every
form of addiction is bad, no matter whether the narcotic be alcohol or morphine
or idealism.”
-Carl Jung
-Carl Jung
Anyone
who has struggled or watched someone struggle with a serious addiction knows
that for the abuser life is a rollercoaster that takes them from highs of sobriety
to the abject lows of using episodes. And while for many the ultimate goal
remains, “I will stop smoking/ drinking/ injecting/ snorting…tomorrow” the tomorrow
comes and goes.
I have worked briefly with a Drug Rehab programme and it followed
the then unusual but now popular, Drug Harm Reduction approach. (Read more here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Harm_reduction).
This
approach is pragmatic and believes that while abusers struggle with their
addictions, the risks and harm associated with their drug consumption can be minimized.
For example, a heroin addict can go from injecting to snorting to smoking (which
is considered lower risk), or if abusers will insist on injecting, we ensure
that they are educated on the value of using disposable syringes instead of
sharing, to avoid HIV related risks, etc.
At
the workplace we all have our addictions. An
addiction is something that isn't physically necessary, but leads to negative
emotional states when the thing we are addicted to isn't supplied.
For some the work itself
is a drug, for others it is power and one upmanship, the compulsive need to be
right, being liked and popular is an addiction or just the addiction to the
adrenaline rush that comes from winning all the time.
Biologically, research
shows that we can even be addicted to certain emotions and keep recreating scenarios
that lead us to experience those emotions over and over again. (Read: http://www.healthstresswellness.com/index.asp?pgid=72
& http://www.healingcancer.info/ebook/candace-pert
to know more).
While facilitating any behavioural change it’s important to remember that
the resistance to change comes from an addiction to certain emotions at the deepest
cellular level. That is why change always requires us to lean into discomfort.
If a Coach or a facilitator promises you a pain free transformation I would
look at them with suspicion.
The
drug harm reduction approach appeals to me because it looks at changing behavior
in an incremental fashion. You cannot expect everyone to give up their ‘drugs
of choice’ cold turkey. There is no magic pill. It’s not a switch that can be
put on or off but rather a regulator where we can bring down the intensity,
frequency and duration of the harmful behaviours gradually. While we do this we
try to protect the ‘addict’ by minimizing the risks and harm that those
behaviours represent.
So
initially, the risk is that a coachee might not be able to accept the
implications of the feedback he has received. Here the ego is fragile and in an
attempt to maintain the perceived self concept he or she goes into denial. This
reaction is natural and is the mind and body’s attempt to hold on to the
addictions. So if the person’s addiction is to always play the victim, he/she
will get depressed, if it is power the reaction could be one of anger, etc.
During this phase their work can get affected and this is the harm that the coach
needs to manage. This is done by constant encouragement and assurance which
comes from a space of unconditional positive regard.
The
effects of these negative moods can also reflect in interactions within the
team. That is why it is important for the coachee to inform his team about the
transformational journey he is undertaking. Social support is key to succeeding
in sustaining long term change. This also helps to maintain relationships
during the often challenging transition time.